About relationship counselling
One of life’s truths is that what we focus on for us becomes more real. If I focus on what is wrong with my partner then that is what I see, more of my partner’s problems.
A relationship is a living entity. It is constantly changing and challenging us to improve and grow. Problems come about when we expect it to stay the same. If everything in life changes then how can our relationship stay the same?
To respond to this change we need to learn to re-focus on ourselves and each other. Being in a relationship is about working together to get more out of our lives, to develop a deeper sense of connectedness and purpose. Given the challenges we all face today is it any wonder that we don’t always say what we mean to say, or hear what was meant to be heard?
What makes a good relationship counsellor:
An effective relationship counsellor is able to see what isn’t working in a relationship and bring this to the attention of the couple. Relationship counselling is also about creating a feeling of safety for both parties to say what is in their hearts so that each partner is able to listen and support the other. This is what we can provide for you.
How we work with you:
We work together as co-therapists so that we can give you the best service you can get to help your relationship improve. Co-therapy is an emerging service in the field of couples counselling as it offers couples a superior professional service. The advantages of co-therapy are:
two skilled therapists, both working together to help you resolve your issues
two minds working on your problem and observing issues in the session
both the male and female perspective, which is vital for a balanced understanding of the issues in your relationship
we are also happily married and have been using these relationship skills in our marriage for 30 years
we offer some after hour appointments on a Thursday evening and Saturday – essential for busy working couples
As well as a long history of working as therapists (find out more about us here) we also incorporate the following skills for couples counselling:
Conflict Resolution Skills
Personality Types and how they impact on relationships
Positive Relationship Skills
Character strengths – assessment and use in relationships
Values clarification for positive lifestyle
Gottman – 7 Skills for a Successful Relationship