Arguing Part 2.

“You can’t handle the truth”. I’m telling him/her what it is they do and all I get is anger, denial or resistance. What’s the point? Why bother? You won’t listen, you won’t hear me! Absolutely right! How can one listen to the truth (or at least my version of the truth) when I am wielding it like a spear…..driving my …

Cooking

I hear his whistling drifting down the hallway into the study where I am sitting.  The soft sound floats in and gently dissolves into my body – swirling around my heart.  I start to feel light, soft and warm.  As I float off I am abruptly brought back to earth with a thud and a crash.  It sounds like he …

Hard Times

Love constantly surprises me. You can go through a difficult phase in your relationship and then fall in love all over again. Not that we want difficult times but they are part of life.  Nice to know that committment and growing through something together brings new levels of love and knowing of each other.

Man Watching

Do you remember back in the early days when you were newly in love with your partner and you were so taken up with them that you sat there watching them for minutes at a time – watching their every movement, their every gesture?   I sat on the couch tonight and I watched Michel in the kitchen making tea.  I …

Acknowledgement vs. criticism

We went to a garage sale this morning that was being held by my sister.  It is so wonderful to have your beloved family live so close.  When we left I thought Michael sounded a bit brusque in his request to go.  Once again – in the name of righteousness and honesty – I let him know about how he …

Grumpy

Today has been a shitty day.  Nothing awful has happened at all.  I have felt grumpy all day for no particularly pressing reason.   It is just one of those days that goes by quickly where nothing works out like it should.  Just little disappointments one after the other.   This is our day off (yes – we are lucky – 3 …

Contentment

It was a hot night last night.  We had the fan on.  I tossed and turned a bit and lay awake for a while.  In the early hours of the morning the room finally started to cool.  I stretched out more luxuriously under the sheet and light quilt.  I turned my body towards the window and Michael snuggled in to …

Small things can matter

I rang Michael up at lunchtime to see if we could have lunch together.  We normally can’t meet for lunch because we have different times we have our breaks and this can’t be changed for a variety of reasons.  I realised we could meet just as I was leaving my office and I was excited at the unexpected opportunity to …

Moroccan Meat Balls

Picture this – I arrive home from work at around 6:00pm.  Michael is in the kitchen wearing a pair of shorts and sporting a bare chest and his new tattoo orchid that he got in Bali in August this year.  The sounds of Buddha Bar V music is filling the room.  I don’t know if I am home or in …

Moore Relationships - Living in Love

Discipline and love

For the past few decades, as a society, we have been acknowledging the effects of stress and challenge on an individual’s behaviour.  We have also been acknowledging our rights to express our frustrations and feelings.  Both of these changes have been healthy and beneficial.  The trouble is that we have lost the art and ability to control our emotions.  We …